There is no such thing as a perfect parent. All parents face challenges, regardless of whether they have poor mental
health or not. While it’s natural to be concerned about the impact your mental ill health may have on your children,
there are things you can do to support your children at the same time as helping yourself. The important thing is
that you can provide a safe and stable home for your child, where they feel loved and protected.
Support System
Establish a support system by
identifying one or two people who
you can go to for emotional and
practical support. Talk to them and let
them know if you are finding it hard to
cope and need support. Your support
system can help with practical tasks
such as childcare, transport and
cooking meals, as well as being there
for you as a listening ear.
Good Habits
Children learn from copying what
they see around them. Support
yourself and them by implementing
good habits, like taking a walk each
day, changing your cuppa from
regular cups of coffee for herbal tea.
Spend time doing things which make
you feel good and incorporate these
into your day to form new good
habits.
Set Routines
Setting routines in the home can help
both parents and children feel secure.
Think about the most stressful times
of the day and take small steps to help
reduce the stress, e.g. preparing the
night before. Keep a diary of your day
to help track your routine and make a
note of any stressors and what you did
to alleviate the stress, and if it worked.
Take a Break
On difficult days acknowledge that
you are having a hard time and lower
your expectations. Give yourself
shame-free permission to skip
the chores, eat a frozen meal, and
increase screen time for your kids.
Remind yourself that you’re doing the
best you can.
Self-Care
Looking after yourself includes eating
regularly, eating nutrient-rich foods,
and moving your body. To make this
happen carry a snack and water bottle
with you wherever you are going and
try to eat when you prepare meals for
your children. You can also participate
in fun physical activities with your
family, such as taking a walk, playing a
game, or doing a short yoga workout.
Seek Help
Sometimes it can help just to talk
to someone whether it is a friend
or a relative but if your feelings of
depression, anger, anxiety or stress
won’t go away, seek professional
support to help during difficult times.
Support line: 0808 8010 722
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